How to Survive as a Single Mom

How to Survive as a Single Mom

The Philippines is a fast growing population. However, inclusive on that numbers are the 14 millions of solo parents out of the total population of the country’s 94 million in 2007. And this year, it is expected by the National Philippines Statistics to grow to a total of 20 million solo parents.

To be a single parent is a truthful condition of so many women who have to be admired for their courage to raise their children amidst the difficulties they face.

I had a friend who had been a single mom for 17 years and was able to raise her two children with good discipline and positive outlook in life. Her name is Gee. I think there are a lot of things we can learn from people like her. We only need to listen to their life stories.

She got pregnant with her first child at the age of 22. A thought of finally finding her true prince charming but has been destroyed for the man left her. She then focused her life of racing the child. After 10 years, she again found another man to love, that love created another child. The child will be the second. But, unlike fairy tales it has not ended with the line “they live happily ever after.”

Well, maybe the right person has not come yet to her side to stay forever with her.

What are the most difficult experiences as a single mother?

She shared that it was difficult for her on having a regular income at those days. Financial stability was one of the difficulties she had to experience. Her mind was divided between her work and taking care for the child. To consider also that all the worked offered to her are all to be assigned to a far places. She could not imagine living her child.

To be a mother and a father at the same time, wow, one has to be a superhero. It is astonishing to know a person that can handle a double faced role. This was the difficult for her to act as a mother and a father at the same time. She has to delegate her daughter to act as a mother and she will act as a father.

Lastly, she experience difficulty on managing her time. As a single woman, mother and a worker, there are so many various demands that ask from these roles. Dividing your time is indeed difficult. But, maybe at the long run one will be used to it.

Thus, she shared 5 tips on how to survive as a single parent based on her experience.

Positive life perspective. She said that no matter how difficult her situation being a single mother, she had to see life positively. She had to avoid thinking to herself as a failure. Rather, she had to view her life as a new challenge to overcome and succeed.  It is a chance of turning a difficulty into an opportunity in life. And, see your children as precious gifts from God. Do not imprison yourself in the room. Live life. Be sociable because we cannot rewind what happens. But, we can play life for it offers magnificent surprises that mold you to a courageous and stronger person.

Make your children your inspiration and your center. A newbie as a single parent often would have a feeling of frustrations and anger that sometimes is channeled             towards the child or their children. She said that if you will not make you children your inspiration, then, who will? Making your children the focus of your life is teaching molding your child to live and feel loved and important.

Have a strong family support. Strong family ties are very essential to help you go through all the hardships and difficulties you face in life. You are assured that one of your family members either you mother, father, brother, sister or a friend can be there with you at all time. They are also the persons who can give you advices are your life and might help you keep on going.

Consider tight budgeting. This is a very practical tip. Sometimes, single women still think they are single with no child to feed. Be wise in spending and prioritize what is necessary for you and for your child.

Do find quality time for yourself. With all the stress and frustrations, releasing them is important for survival. Sometimes you have your quality time for yourself. Here we are not saying that you forget your children and your quality time for them. We are speaking of yourself because you cannot deny you also feel how to be tired. Unwind and free your mind with all the worries by going to beach, travel abroad, watch movie, go to a massage or go to a parlor. Reward yourself for being a SUPERMOM.

To be a single parent is not easy but fulfilling.


Earth Day: Filipino Environmental Activist

Every time that we celebrate Earth Day, people, writers, speakers, and environmentalist alike around the world shares steps or tips on how to take part on their own little way for the betterment of the Earth. They often express things which previous laws aims yet failed to achieve. Others would even pass policy or laws to enforce the initiatives of the few. Yet, still, numerous opt to be indifferent to the cry of the Earth which translate to the cry of the poor who are mostly affected.

Sadly, after Earth Day commemoration, we easily forget what we have read from social media platform posts. We go back to our business of destroying once again the land where we stand and hold us together. We continue once again throwing garbage, plastics, digging holes through mining and air pollution.

This time, rather than writing tips on how to contribute for the rehabilitation of Earth’s Health which many have written already, I will mention personalities who I believed had worked hard and contributed for the influence of many to rethink their relationship with Mother Earth especially here in the (3)

  1. Von Hernandez- he championed as a Filipino environmental activist and spearheaded on organizing against waste incineration. He received the Goldman Environmental Prize that has been dubbed as the “Nobel Prize for the environment,” last April 2003. Amidst the fight and the Clean Air Act of 1999, Hernandez sees the struggle against waste incineration is far from over.


  1. Fr. Edwin (Fr. Edu) Gariguez- I personally knew the person because he is the executive secretary of the CBCP-National Secretariat for Social Action where I am also working at the moment. Fr. Edu’s passion for service towards the poor and his fight against mining is inevitably reflected on his life. He has been championing on the decade long 17795738_248302968910943_6422710370413859881_ncampaign against large-scale nickel mining in Mindoro that affected the Indigenous People’s community. He will also be receiving the Goldman Environmental Prize this April 2017. He is motivated by his religious belief and the strong desire to uphold and protect the people and the environment. He is a co-founder of Alliance Against Mining (ALAMIN) and a co-convener with Alyansang Tigil Mina (ATM). At present, he continues to challenge the government, politicians, leaders and even the Catholic Church herself on enforcing and promoting environmental protection initiatives.


  1. Gina Lopez- she is the current Department of Environmental and Natural download (2)Resources (DENR). She is an outspoken environmental activist criticizes the mining industry on the Philippines due to its oppressive effects to the environment and to the people. Her presence had threatened the mining industry. But, it also made a clear wakening fist to all mining industry to be responsible and pro-active for the people. She always cares for the welfare of the affected communities and people in the mining areas and other environmental affected areas. Across the country, all and other environmental activist supports her especially her causal fight for the environment.


  1. Jayme Navarro- he uses pyrolysis technology converting trash plastics into less sulfuric Diesel, Gasoline and LPG. He was an undergraduate of commerce and had download (1)become passionate on the versatility of plastics. He started recycling around 1970 of plastic scraps to make plastic twine, straws and sticks in Bacolod. In 1983, he experimented and was able to produce liquid hydrocarbons. In 2007, Mr. Navarro found a great way of recycling plastic bags. He found the best process of converting reject plastic into fuel. His invention was patented with intellectual property last November 2008. He was able to put-up his company Poly-Green Technology and resources, Inc.


  1. Joy Onozawa- an architect who takes her advocacy to heart and applies it even to downloadwork in architecture. It was in her work in Plantation Bay owners she was able to apply environmental-friendly techniques in building methods. The green architect is an outstanding example of what we all ought to be – driven to nurture not only ourselves, but also the Earth.


  1. Antonio Oposa Jr. – he believes that the worsening situation of marine ecosystem can be reversed for the sake of future generation particularly on the Visayan Sea.images He popularized the “Oposa Doctrine” that argues that the interests of future generation could be protected in court. In 1999, he supported a group of citizens that sued the government as liable for the pollution of Manila Bay. He founded Law of Nature or Batas Kalikasan with three-pronged strategy of engineering, enforcement and education. He is a Ramon Magsaysay Awardee.

Above are few Filipino environmental activist who have been influential in the past years. There might have been a lot more people working hard for the protection of Mother Earth. We wish to know them too. If you have know a person or someone from your place who devoutly put much effort and life for the protection of our Mother Nature, please do not hesitate to share his or her life story. May we be influenced through their examples.